Rebecca’s Magical Mondays # 7 – The Growth Spiral

I’m writing to you from the edge of ecstasy. I have tears streaming down my face from glimpsing the treasure that is life—from the sweet precipice of joy after deep grief—from opening my eyes and looking around at the life I’ve built—and reveling in gratitude for those who have helped me to build it.

I just finished meditating and it is the first time I have ever had this kind of reaction. I have experienced this kind of grace in church before but never on my own like this at home. Maybe I’ve seen some facet of it in nature but today feels somehow different. Thanks to a dear friend reminding me that there’s a free meditation available, I started more intentional morning meditation a few weeks ago. Today the silent chant was:

OM VARUNAM NAMAH

My life is in harmony with cosmic law.

The idea is that you bring your attention back to that phrase when your mind starts to wander. I repeated it silently again and again as my mind wandered to laundry, plans for the day, how much I paid for that Kombucha from The Apiary and then back to OM VARUNAM NAMAH and then gratitude to all of the people who brought me this far…I saw myself tagging so many people on Facebook – my cousins for loving me unconditionally….my dear, dear close friends as family….I know, weird right, that in meditation I’m Facebook tagging…my mentor who has opened me up to so much of my own intuitive power and the list went on and on….and then like a waterfall I fell down into the grief of the worst times of my life and then the joy shot up and out of the waters of despair and I relived that nexus of grace over and over and over. And knowing that God, the Universe, my ancestors, everyone, even the puppy dozing at the foot of my bed, brought me to this moment of grace, gratitude, grief and joy.

Phew…that is the edge I am just stepping down from now. 

And I recorded this video on The Growth Spiral yesterday at the beach. I mention the women in my Walk Inn Beauty Mastermind including wonderful wisdom from Vernita Porter — I hope you enjoy it!

Here are this week’s resources:

  1. Today I started reading The Water Dancer by Ta-Nehisi Coates — the writing is excellent and the story has me gripped after two chapters. I thought that you might appreciate this brief interview with Trevor Noah.

2. Brand new Brené Brown interview on the Tim Ferriss Show. Here’s the link to Tim’s show page which includes links to your favorite podcast platforms and here’s the interview on YouTube:

3. Our Experience of Grief is Unique as Our Fingerprint article by David Kessler. This article addresses the difference between grieving and mourning.

4. Mercury Retrograde now until March 9: Check out Alex Myles’ take on the next three weeks. I also like Vanessa Couto’s approach to re-do, re-think, re-imagine and so much more. You can read her blog post here. You can believe or not in this type of thing. Basically, it’s not a time to be alarmed. It’s a chance to slow down and pay attention, allow things to be cleaned up. Have patience if electronics and technology glitch (tonight several links that I wanted to share were not working so I left them out) and most of all, STOP and notice when miscommunications are happening and step back and away and recognize, most of the time, if you’re digging in your heels…try taking off your shoes. (Ha! I made a Merc Rx funny!)

Here’s how you can help this week:

 

 

  1. If you or someone you know is feeling lonely and needs a lift, consider purchasing the one-hour recording of my Worldwide Virtual Valentine’s Celebration. You’ll get a grounding meditation, poetry readings, laughter, chocolate-tasting, oracle and tarot card pulls and lots of self-love strategies to cope with obstacles. The cost is $14 via Venmo or PayPal and it’s available for download through the end of February. 
  2. Set an alarm on your phone twice a day for three deep belly breaths and do them.
  3. Drink a glass of water as soon as you wake up.
  4. Laugh as much as possible this week. And try to dance if you can too–even alone at home. 
  5. I’m committed to transcribing 2,000 words each week until the end of February. You can keep up with the sequel to my novel on Instagram.

Remember: Find magic in the everyday! There are clues everywhere!

Rebecca’s Magical Mondays #6 – You’re invited to My Virtual Valentine’s Celebration!

Check out this video invitation!

Love, love, love people! We are ready for this week…I promise you! And you are invited to join me for a virtual Valentine’s Day *lunch*– I want to celebrate with you!

Here’s the plan:

When: Friday, February 14, 10am-11am PT – Recording available too in case you can’t make it live! (Check out the time zone converter to calculate your local time zone.)

Where: Zoom – link + phone number emailed to you upon registration.

What: Virtual Valentine’s Celebration – lunch, tea, dinner or snack depending upon your time zone – there will be a recording that you can watch at your leisure! The basics are: I will ground us, pull oracle cards, do a poetry reading and circle us with some gorgeous love intentions and share some of the ways I keep self-love going in these times.

Why: I want to bring some extra special magic and love to your Valentine’s Day! Check out the video to learn more.

Register: Send $14 payable via Venmo or PayPal – make sure to add your email in the notes section with your payment. You can even gift the experience to a loved one!

And here are some magical Monday resources for the week:

A. Music: Become a Mountain by Dan Deacon is my heart’s song this week. My brother sent it to me and I listened at sunset while walking the dog. I found myself sobbing with joy at the beauty of the world. I love the crescendo at the 2:36 mark. Do yourself a favor and listen.

B. Movement: I love the “Natural Movement” movement! Here’s a recent blog post you might enjoy.  I’m also a fan of Petra Fisher’s Movement Revolution newsletter and Instagram. Check out her blog for some excellent articles. I encourage you to sign up for her newsletter. Her last one featured “9 Paths to Healthy Natural Movement”:

  1. Walk every day – bodies need to walk. Period. It’s the bread and butter. If you don’t have posterior push off, work on walking technique but still walk. In minimal shoes.

  2. Squat every day – Squatting is not optional. If you don’t have a full squat, spend your time on squat prep.

  3. Hang every day – Just like walking and squatting1 Hanging is a key movement nutrient. Use as many shoulder prep exercises and modifications as you need to build strength – these count too.

  4. Transition to minimal shoes – modern shoes mess up your feet and the rest of your body. If you do nothing else do this.

  5. Use less furniture – more movement, no extra time needed. This is a no brainer as far as I’m concerned.

  6. Improve your alignment – how you move matters and how you move all day long matters the most. This is like weight lifting technique for real life.

  7. Mobilize your joints – Mobility makes everything better. You’ll squat, walk and hang better, alignment will be easier, your joints will be stronger, your balance will be better.

  8. Exercise outside the gym – Packing in mini-bouts of exercise and movement will feed your cells the movement they need.

  9. Learn to release tension – Most of us are great at creating tension and terrible at releasing it. That’s super not cool. Releasing is a movement skill and you need it.

C.  Refeeding Symptoms Podcast Episode: Caroline Dooner, author of the F*ck It Diet interviews Anna Sweeney, MS, CEDRD-S, who specializes in eating disorder recovery, Health at Every Size and Intuitive Eating. She shares her own experience living with chronic illness and navigating wellness culture. This interview is especially poignant if you’ve ever found yourself restricting your food in any way. I raise my hand having tried Weight Watchers, Paleo, Whole 30–you name it. I’ve finally come to the point of eating what my body needs and wants.  I am happy and have tons of extra energy because I’m not spending it obsessing over what’s on my plate. Now clearly you know I still LOVE whole foods and think that eating what comes from the earth is our best bet and still, we can indulge and enjoy–food allergies not withstanding. Refeeding is a concept that’s new to me–it’s our body’s adjustment to trying foods that we cut out previously. You can listen to this episode on Stitcher and iTunes. (And to quote Caroline, “This podcast is exceedingly casual & I spend a good amount of episodes having conversations with my dog. You have been warned.”)

I do hope you’ll join me on February 14th! And if you can’t and you sign up, you’ll get the recording!

Here’s how you can help:

  1. Share this blog post with someone who might want or need company on Valentine’s Day!
  2. Move your body and try one of Petra’s approaches above.
  3. Write yourself a love note. It is simple–pick 1-3 things about you that you love. If this is hard, take a look at yourself as a child (even in your mind’s eye) and remember something delightful–what you played, ate or sang. The note can be a letter, a post-it or even tapped out on your phone. Trust me, this exercise is as comforting as a cup of hot chocolate.

Much love and remember, Find Magic in the everyday, there are clues everywhere!

 

Rebecca’s Magical Mondays #5 – Unconditional Love

Welcome one and all to the land of unconditional love — to your heart and mine! I made you a 2-minute video in Carmel-by-the-Sea!

Here is to your week of beauty:

1. One of my favorite poets: Terry Spencer Edwards – read two poems here.

2. One of my favorite books: Zahrah the Windseeker – Nnedi Okorafor. A lovely podcast interview by Yin Change of 88 Cups of Tea is here.

3. Shaman Durek speaks unconditional love here in a great DENtalks LIVE podcast – stick with it – trust me. For more on Shaman Durek, check out his site.

Bring your light into this moment and know, the world is better because you are in it.

Here’s how you can help:

1. Write the words: I love you in a text, on a piece of paper, with sidewalk chalk out in the world.

2. Delight in the delicious: indulge in something you love.

3. Read a poem!

And remember: Find magic in the everyday. There are clues everywhere!