Get ready: Peace in your heart, mind, body + spirit

Hello My Loves!

I am so happy and excited to share a number of resources that have been lifting me up lately. For the first time, I feel the deepest peace in my heart in every aspect of my life.  Do I still have concerns? Yes. Do I struggle with confidence and self-doubt? Yes. And at the base, under all of it, I finally get that I am divinely directed and protected.

My Mystic Athlete journey has helped me along the way. You can read about that here and here.  Throughout the process, I have encountered some bright lights.

Perhaps you are in the same peaceful space in your heart. If yes, hoorah! If no, I promise that it is possible. To that end, here are some resources and amazing humans to inspire you.

RESOURCE #1 – Free 5-Day Body Confidence Course

First, I invite you to join me on a free five-day journey called “The Confidence Code” focused on body confidence by Strength and nutrition coach and truthteller, Chrissy King.

Sign up for The Confidence Code which starts September 3 here. You can learn more about Chrissy here and follow her on Instagram here.  I am not an affiliate in any way–just an excited participant! Chrissy kindly agreed to answer three intuitive questions which I sent to her. Enjoy her thoughtful answers.

What does having body confidence bring into your life? As someone who spent years of my life obsessing about the way my body looks, I know how much it drains you energetically. When I was spending all of my time hyper focused on how I looked and connecting that with worth, I didn’t have any energy left to create magic in the world.  I couldn’t think of the life that I actually wanted to create for myself because my dislike of my body wreaked turmoil on my mental health.

When I let go of the notion that my worthiness was derived from my external appearance, I found the freedom and liberation to fall in love with me.  It was only then that I developed the ability to feel confident in my skin and to step into my power.  I knew I was worthy to #TakeUpSpace.
What would you say to people who believe they don’t have time to prioritize fitness and their health? I think we prioritize whatever is important to us.  Prioritizing your health and fitness doesn’t mean spending hours in the gym or on meal prep.  It can mean choosing to take a 15 or 20 minute walk three days a week, taking the stairs instead of the elevator, or choosing to drink more water each day.  Oftentimes, the fitness industry makes people feel like we have to take an all or nothing approach to our health, and that’s simply not true or practical.  Small, incremental actions add up and making choices that help us to feel more nourished, energized, and whole don’t have to be drastic to be beneficial.
What are some small, concrete incremental steps that readers can take to increase their body confidence? While body confidence is a process, I think there are some small, concrete steps that anyone can implement in their day to day lives.

1) Resist the urge to make disparaging comments about your body.  Seek for body neutrality as a first step.

2) Embrace the things that you love about yourself and be unapologetic about it.  It’s okay to say that you love your smile or your hair or how great a writer you are.  Own those things unapologetically.

3) Take a social media break and/or unfollow accounts who make you feel bad yourself or like you need to ‘change’ or ‘fix’ something.

RESOURCE #2 – A Powerful Approach to Language
Dani Katz’s book, The New P* Handbook: Little Language Hacks for Big Change as well as her wealth of resources on her website and Instagram.  I have only just started the book and already feel an impact. Her approach to quantum languaging helps you use high frequency words to elevate your life. Yup.

RESOURCE #3 – Naps. 

The Nap Ministry – check them out on Instagram or Facebook.  And here’s a recent article about their work. As you know, I am a huge fan of naps. In fact, a major part of my Sunday, in addition to my super groovy church, was built around a luxurious nap.
RESOURCE #4 – A Magical Dog

south_the_chihuahua — you can follow him here.

A certain person whom I love dearly is managing this account. As one of my followers put it, “I’m happy to follow cute dogs! The posts make my day brighter!” If you would like some furry light in your life, please do follow @south_the_chihuahua

RESOURCE #5 – You are loved meditation

I recorded this 8 minute 48 second “You are loved” meditation while standing under the moonlight in the Pacific Ocean. It’s in a Dropbox link so that you can download it to a playlist and listen even when offline. Additional meditations and poems can be found on my Soundcloud page. (Photo by Eric Witsoe in Poznan, Poland on Unsplash)

And remember to follow me on Instagram @beamysticathletetv.

I wish you continued inspiration, joy and peace in that bold beautiful heart of yours!



Thank you and Happy 3rd Birthday to Selma!

Thank you my wonderful readers for all of the support throughout the last three years since The Amazing Adventures of Selma Calderón was published on 8/8!

In honor of the book’s 3rd birthday, I wanted to invite you to join me in doing three things this week:

1. Please share the book with someone who might enjoy it! Here’s a link:

3. Offer a gesture of kindness to someone to sprinkle some magic into their day!

Let me know how your celebration goes in the comments!

And if you want to listen to the first couple chapters of Selma, click here and here.

And my website, radio interview, Huff Post article and documentary are fun ways to connect to the story as well.

I have about 75% of the sequel [hand]written! And thanks to Canadian Author Sarah Selecky’s Six Weeks, Six Senses free writing opportunity, I am reenergized to finish the book by January 31, 2019!

I hope you continue to find magic in the pages of Selma and in your everyday life. Look for it in the tiny details! Cucalacas!



Easy steps for healing + cultivating your own magic

I have been wanting to write to you for some time. You may have caught my post about the Mystic Athlete manifesto and the decision to commit to 80 days of any one of the following:

Movement of the Body

Intentional Rest

Handwritten note to someone

Well, today is day 78 of 80.

And it’s remarkable that I stuck with it. What I’m learning when called to do something like this, is to listen and take action.

The Mystic Athlete manifesto I “downloaded” and created about 18 months ago is below.

I pledge to:

1. Love up every curve; Wonder at, and embrace my gorgeous belly.

2. Delight in the delicious; Let a healthy bit of hedonism heal with sensual Mystic pleasure.

3. Cultivate my warrior.

4. Quiet the spirit when the soul is calling.

5. Draw, write and create a life full of color.

6. Dance under wild lights.

7. Listen to my intuitive body and train with all my Mystic power, including relishing rest.

8. Invite and embrace affluence in all its forms.

9. Trust in the journey including the divine detours.

10. Allow, allow and keep allowing – begin a love affair with the act of not knowing.

If you’re still wondering what being a Mystic Athlete means, basically, it’s a magical bad-ass.

But what does that mean?

The short answer is that a Mystic Athlete uses intuition and magic to thrive in everyday life.

When you thrive, you heal. When you heal, it contributes to the greater good – or what my fellow mystics call, “the collective.”

All of us have intuition. Some of us trust it more than others. And in my case, I can see and read things in people and signs. This helps in business, my personal life and with clients.

One client recently commented, “You have such a matter of fact way of saying things to me which are caring and yet also push me to do the things I want and need to do.”

That’s what I hope my writing will do for you. Or even the idea of being a Mystic Athlete or your own kind of magical being.

I can see some of my more practical readers (who love me), thinking, “Um, Rebecca, I do not aspire to be a unicorn.”

I know. And to that end, I have a new gift for you. Have you heard of Ryan Holiday? He spoke at the World Domination Summit which I attended last month in Portland. (It’s a conference of world-changers focused on adventure, service and community.)

Ryan Holiday, among other things, focuses on the work of the stoics. Think Aristotle, Plato and Marcus Aurelius. You can find lots of interviews with him online.

What’s interesting about his work to me in all my mystic wonder, is that everything so far seems based on reason. It’s been a wonderful counterbalance to my powerful emotions and intuition. It doesn’t mean that I stop following my intuition. It almost gives me a boost, an extra secret (unexpected) tool as I navigate the—at times—harrowing world of what it is to love so much.

I have been heartbroken these last months by the hardship of a family member, the illness of dear friends and family members, the act of the U.S. government treating children like animals and keeping them in cages apart from their families and the continued ingrained racism in America as evidenced (yet again) by the lack of reporting of the murder of Nia Long last weekend.

So what can I do to:

Make people well

Free the children

Create racial equity and social justice

While still:

Working full-time to support my family

Raising my son

Nurturing my marriage

Taking care of myself

Cleaning (or pretending to clean) my bathroom

Paying my bills

If there is one thing that being evacuated four times in four months taught me, it is:

You can’t control anything. Give up on trying.

So then what?



So with this dear reader, I am sharing what I am doing in this world to heal it and myself:

1. Practicing silence and reason: I actually keep my mouth shut and count silently in my head before responding to many people and situations. This helps with the act of “non-reactivity.” And it is so renewing. It’s an energy management tool that is now an essential part of taking care of my health.

2. Writing: I am working on the sequel to The Amazing Adventures of Selma Calderon with a new sense of personal adventure and commitment. And I know this book will create joy and healing in the world.

3. Laughing: it’s quite simple, really.

4. Allowing: My download for that big eclipse last year — which was reaffirmed during the eclipse this week was “Allow, allow and keep allowing.” Basically, get out of the way. Let people be themselves and stop trying to manage everything. I fail at this every single day and yet I still show up and create a new chance for that space every day.

5. Trusting my own magic: I pull oracle cards, meditate in my backyard and artist studio, connect with fellow mystics and friends, and learn more and more every day just by listening deeply.

There’s more, but that’s enough for now. Thanks for hanging out with me for a bit. I invite you to reflect on what your daily endeavors can do to heal you and help the world. Daily gratitude, picking up litter, charitable donations, calling a friend in need or even taking a nap can all be radical acts of courage.

If you want help with clarifying your dreams and taking action steps to support those dreams, or if you would like a short consult session with oracle or tarot pulls, check out my “Work with me” page and send me an email at

Leap with me. If we fall, we can get back up and try again.

With love,


A magic moment in my inner sanctum

Welcome to the inside of a quiet moment on Sunday morning. I was about to write in my journal when I got a strong call to write to you as I was integrating the meaning of the cards I pulled this morning from the The Mystics Oracle Deck. This isn’t a post only about Gratitude, Mysticism and the Collective, but rather a bow to how humbling it can be to live in this world. And perhaps, it shall be a call to use our gifts to expand into the light that is our birthright.

Here is the magic I wish to share:

  1. You can use gratitude as medicine. Yesterday, as I was hanging laundry for a trip which begins at 2:45am on Monday morning when I had only returned less than 24 hours prior, I felt a sadness run through my body. It was the sadness of leaving combined with fatigue. Instead of fighting it, I paused and let myself feel it. Without consciously shifting out of it, I noticed where it landed in my body. Then I talked to it. And I said, “Yes, I am sad about leaving my husband and son.” And then I thought about where I was going.  I have an affection for the state, and remembered some of the people that I am going to see. One of them is a dear friend. I happen to work with her. I smiled, this I could feel in my heart–it was actually smiling. I get paid to work with someone I love.  And then I thought about several of the other people and realized how I was looking forward to seeing them and laughing with them.  This is the re-frame. It is not shoving down my sadness with gratitude. It is objectively looking at all of it together in one bowl. For more on navigating conflicting emotions, read this post.
  2. Magic is accessible to everyone. Today is Pentecost Sunday. Despite the fact that I was raised Catholic, I wasn’t sure what that meant. So I went to my new Episcopal church’s newsletter and clicked on a link where someone told the story behind today’s celebration. Bottom line, the apostles were touched by the Holy Spirit and able to speak in a language or languages understood by all of the diverse cultures in Jerusalem. Magic is like that. When you approach the world with an open heart, there is a translation of your spirit into a universal love. Staying grounded in that love is one of the most powerful tools for thriving. And I promise you that everyday magic will spring forward in some of the most unexpected ways.
  3. Boundaries and “no thank you” are the peaceful warriors best allies. Warrior and peace may not seem to go together. However, there’s a force, strength and energy which I find essential to living in the world and navigating immense amounts of pain–my own and that of others. At the same time, there is an art to yielding and allowing what is, to just be. For example, I know that I cannot heal the wound of racism in the U.S., but I can extend kindness equally. And I can speak out in the very moment of witnessing discrimination. I am also incredibly careful about who sits in my inner circle. It’s not about exclusivity, it’s about the boundaries of my heart. It may be open, but there are sentinels guarding the gates. And those individuals are my dearest friends and family. And the sentinels, much like at Buckingham Palace (that’s right, I found a Royal Wedding link), rotate on and off duty as I do for them. There is a space between me and some of my dearest friends right now. It varies whether the space was carved by me or the other or both. I don’t over analyze it. I just allow it to be. That is the yielding required by the peaceful warrior. For when you allow for spaciousness, there is room for growth.  For more on this topic, read Shine the Pot: When to Let Go of Friends (and Family).

That’s all for now. I’m off to church. I am wishing you great happiness today and every day. And when there is despair, talk to it. Allow it. And then go into your medicine bag and find what works for you. Nature takes up a lot of real estate in my bag. Here’s a film I made in the first week of my Mystic Athlete, 80 days of Notes and the Body movement. It includes some of the most beautiful trees I have seen in a while. It also includes the funny story of me running to a plane with my shoes off and the magic of landing in my favorite number over and over and over. To learn more about the Mystic Athlete, visit the previous post.

#Mystic Athlete – Join me for free!

Mother’s Day is the perfect time for a reset. Some of us feel joy. Most of us feel some sort of grief, loss or disappointment, or at a minimum, conflicting emotions. And some of us feel a blend of all of the above. That’s what it is to be human, isn’t it?

How do we thrive in the midst of so much suffering in the world? How do we also embrace the significant joy that comes our way–whether it’s in the form of a quiet cup of coffee, the wagging tail of a dog or the contentment that springs from appreciating access to clean water and a warm bed (if you are fortunate enough to have both of those)? How do we mother ourselves into whole health?

Here’s the deal:

Join me starting today for 80 days of #NotesAndTheBody as part of the #MysticAthlete movement. Every day until July 31, choose one or more of the following:

  1. Some sort of significant exercise as defined by you – think about walking, running, gardening, yoga, Qoya, basketball – whatever.
  2. Intentional Rest – be it sitting still for a bit or snuggled and awake or asleep.
  3. Write a handwritten note to anyone – and mail it with in four days.

And here’s the thing, it’s hard to miss a day if you manage even a few minutes of rest or sleep because it’s embedded in the concept. That will take us to July 31. And don’t worry if you’re reading this after Mother’s Day. You can join during any point in the journey.

Optional Calls to Action

  1. Please share this post and also consider subscribing to my blog at
  2. Find a buddy to join you.
  3. Follow MysticAthleteTV on YouTube and on Instagram for 60-second videos or sometimes a little longer.
  4. Post your #NotesAndTheBody #MysticAthlete actions on social media.
  5. Keep your participation private and don’t tell anyone you’re doing it.

Those are the basics. Read no further unless you want more context. You can watch this 1:44 video and/or read on below.

What is a #MysticAthlete ?

I had a “download” — which means a big gift from my muse to write an 8-point Mystic Athlete Manifesto in March of 2017. For more than a year, I tested this approach to thriving with two friends – one in DC and one in London.  While I considered making this a fee-based program, I want to launch it in its FREE form for now. This summer I will be embodying these principles and also focusing heavily on writing and editing the sequel to my novel, The Amazing Adventures of Selma Calderon. Here’s an overview plus I added two more points to the manifesto. It’s a living concept which will evolve over time.

Mystic Athlete: Exploring Your Own Personal Ecosystem to Maximize Health and Joy

The ecology of you —building an ecosystem that supports personal health, wealth, strength and connection to nature and humanity aligned with the divinity of everyday magic.

The Mystic Athlete approach offers a flexible path for health, wealth, connection and everyday magic. We live in a world where societal expectations and the ones we place on ourselves are too much. The pace feels too fast.

Mystic Athletes learn how to take an ecological approach to their lives and prioritize physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being. The goal is not balance—it is a mastery of energy and the shifts required for you to enjoy your everyday life, prioritize joy, set intentions and take inspired action so that many of your longings and desires become your reality.

It provides a path to weave together fun, family, friends and money management while prioritizing nature connection, movement, nourishment and creativity.

Mystic Athlete Manifesto

I pledge to:

1. Love up every curve; Wonder at, and embrace my gorgeous belly.

2. Delight in the delicious; Let a healthy bit of sensual pleasure heal me.

3. Cultivate my warrior.

4. Quiet the spirit when the soul is calling.

5. Draw, write and create a life full of color.

6. Dance under wild lights.

7. Listen to my intuitive body and train with all my Mystic power, including relishing rest.

8. Invite and embrace affluence in all its forms.

9. Trust in the journey including the divine detours.

10. Allow, allow and keep allowing – begin a love affair with the act of not knowing.

I hope you enjoy exploring this path with me if you choose to do so. Don’t worry if some of the mystic language prompts a feeling of “I don’t get it” or “that’s too woo woo for me.”  You don’t have to completely get it because part of the mystery or not knowing is inherent in the approach. Also, I MADE IT UP with the help of divine inspiration.

And you are not required to take the pledge – just go forth and

move your body

rest your body

write someone a note and mail it

only if you want to do so.

There’s ZERO pressure. I love those kinds of invitations.

See you out there!

Finding the Divine

As you may know, I love my new church. It’s Episcopalian and I am not. I was raised Catholic and some folks think I’m Jewish. (I enjoyed many, many seders in my younger years.) I’ve studied Buddhism and a little Hinduism. I am a modern Mystic.

So where does that leave me on Easter? I’m celebrating rebirth, resurrection and the Divine Feminine over a twice baked cinnamon roll (because I ate the first one when it wasn’t fully cooked) and feeding my son jelly beans out of the bag, bread in a giant bowl and a token orange. And it finds me writing to you.

We just returned from a hybrid evacuation (our fourth—this last one due to the threat of debris flow from rain) and Spring break. I thought I would make it to my church’s super cool stand-around-the-fire ancient chanting service (Taize prayer) last night. Then I thought I would at least make it to services this morning. But I am exhausted. And being around groups of people right now—even the thought of getting dressed, is too much.

If you look at your life as a wheel with pie pieces made up of the basic things—relationships, money, home, health—so much of my wheel has been pummeled by events in the last six months.

And still, like the Maya Angelou poem states, “I rise, I rise, I rise.”

Those who believe in Christ, also look for the second coming. Where and how would Christ appear incarnate? Is he walking among us now? In the U.S., Christianity has been divided in so many ways that the answer to this question will look wildly different depending upon the religion or even the individual church.

Many people have asserted that the second coming of Christ or the Christ Mind is occurring right now with the rise of the Divine Feminine. Whether it’s the Global Women’s movement, #MeToo or even the young girls standing in front of the hearts and minds of millions via social media during the #MarchforOurLives, we bear witness to the female warrior, the healer, the fiercely loving energy coming forth to protect humans, creatures and our planet.

For me, that’s the Divine Feminine. We can even see it in some men. There are those brothers, friends, fathers, uncles, with the ability to truly see and value women—the divine feminine energy courses through their veins. We are lucky to have many men among us who can hold both the Divine Feminine and the the Sacred Masculine which is embodied in the photo of photographer Amheric Miguel Hall below, at the Desert Rose Labyrinth. (By the way, women hold the Sacred Masculine energy in big ways too, but that’s for another blog post.)

This all feels fluid and confusing. It’s not a clean cut way to approach faith. But that is faith. It’s messy and oftentimes full of doubt. The packing and unpacking from our four evacuations during the last four months, and watching our way of life fray at the edges—that has been messy.

But I have seen worse in my own life. And I know that people in the world experience a level of poverty and strife far beyond my imagination.

This morning, as I began writing this post, Amheric (who is not only an amazing photographer, but also a drummer, playwright and marathon runner–among many of his life “roles”), sent me a breathtaking photo of today’s Easter sunrise at Mt. Zion National Park. It’s at the top of this post. At that moment I had just pulled clothes for church from our suitcases. But when I looked at the photographs he sent (even one of the Blue Moon right before), I said, God is there, in the sky and the mountains. That’s where I want to go to church today—in nature.

Sometimes we find the divine in the smile of another, sometimes we find it in the church pew or in the silence of eating a half-baked cinnamon bun. And sometimes, we find the divine in Mother nature.

There is so much comfort in the dependability of the sun and the moon when all else feels unsure. No matter what you believe, whether you celebrate Easter, Passover or some other holiday or today is just like any other day, I hope that these words help to spark a recognition of the divine in you and in those around you. For together, we can ignite those sparks into a bonfire of love. And that love will always win.

You are never alone.

I see the divine in you.

Happy Easter!

**All breathtaking photos are used by permission of Amheric Miguel Hall.**

Tree Clues

What of the dark that never receives light?

Is it broken by not knowingness

or is it the germination ground for the seeds of kindness

unborn in the amniotic fluid of what his ancestors never knew

that trust, not looking behind or in front

just the resting in the swivel chair of dreaming?

I fell in love once, twice, maybe eight times

each a dance, dip here for romance

sashay, swing, double click your heels to the yellow brick road of are you my dreamboat

then remembering that I forgot to dream a new dream

unwrinkled by my mother’s wishes for me

liberated from my grandmother’s unanswered quest for freedom

this one finds faeries hiding in teapots

orange blossoms, branch and all nestled in a coffee mug

and a table crowded with nicoise olives

cracked pepper croccantini

and Saint Angel brie

triple cream

the bubbles beckon of stories

my soul hasn’t forgottten

Scheherazade lays awake counting off details on her fingers

remember the tree trunks entwined in moss

they have a clue encoded in their DNA

for Hurley learned the language of the trees from G.G.

and think again about the labyrinths

for the roots of Redwoods trace a portal far deeper than your mind knows now

Dreaming is what’s called for

dreaming and the wide open sands of Wadi Rum

You’ll recall from a past life that the sand storm you’ve written

doesn’t belong in the Atlas Mountains

perhaps though you’ll find traces of unfettered loneliness in the heart of Ulises and that will cause the grain of sand

to find a wave

and a storm

and the near last gasp of breath

until Dahlia the magic storyteller pulls him through

I never wonder about my heart though love is elusive
there is a story for every ache

every red thread

this triangle of a spool woven from my hands and across each foot

I am told I was a healer who also endured hunger but not disease

but the royals favored me for saving one

this secret is no longer hidden in the dungeons of Carcassonne

now she is free, as I am, to love selectively

and without condition

Next Steps for the New Year


Hello Amazing Humans!

I am just back from living away from home for 26 nights due to the Thomas Fire in California.  There were many lessons learned and lots of growth throughout the process. I’m so grateful to the firefighters and first responders who defended our town from the worst fire in our state’s history.

Today we start a new year and let’s face it: this past year has been a trip globally, locally and for many, personally. On my end, we lost family members, we almost lost a matriarch, I experienced health issues and we evacuated. On the positive side, our house is still standing, we went to Italy to research book 2 of The Amazing Adventures of Selma Calderónand I’m 80% finished with the sequel.  I launched another business helping people to make their visions real. My husband continues on the beautiful path of his true purpose of working with kids, and through a blessing by our hosts up north during the evacuation, will train with an amazing global organization called Kidpower. My son raised the most funds for his school’s jog-a-thon (more than $1,600) and won a Chromebook.

There’s a light side and dark side to everything.  Let’s talk about how to bring in and create more light in 2018.

  1. Cultivate Joy.  Sounds easy and also hard. Here’s how you do it–even when depressed or ill. Give gratitude for 1-3 things every day. Speak the gratitude and write it somewhere. Text someone, add it to social or write it in a journal or on a post-it note or napkin. It does not have to be the same way every day. Just once a day–even for the seemingly tiniest things like access to clean water, the breath in your lungs or the taste of your favorite food.
  2. Connect in Person. I have set an intention to connect in person with specific people in 2018. Look at your calendar and make time for the people who light you up. And if you can’t see them in person, try Zoom which is free if both of you can get Internet access at the same time.
  3. Choose health. How often do you move your body and get your heart rate up? What are your choosing to eat? My approach this year is simple: 45 minutes of exercise, four times per week, plus the 80-20 rule when it comes to eating.  80% of the time eat clean whole foods and 20% of the time, cinnamon rolls, baby.  Also, I experimented with avoiding my trigger foods during November and December which includes all members of the carbohydrate crunchy salty family plus my not-so-secret love: cheese. I’m avoiding both for the next 9 months or so, but not eliminating them since eliminating things with my personality feels like an encroachment on my freedom which is a recipe for rebellion and over-indulgence. I’ve also decided to find a great doctor in my community.
  4. Get dressed. I learned from a brilliant stylist (and dear friend) named Morocco B. Assouline, that clothes are like art. We can make a statement and get creative every single time we get dressed. This year, after working from home in sweatpants (yes, I know how lucky I am), it’s time to stay comfy and feel beautiful at the same time.
  5. Put your money first. It’s so easy not to look at your finances honestly. Schedule quarterly meetings with yourself or your partner to assess where you are financially and where you want to go. Then brainstorm about how you want to get there by putting some practices in place.
  6. Learn something new once a month or every other month. It may be that you simply read a book, sign up for an online course, take a free tutorial on YouTube, use the free DuoLingo app to learn a new language or take an in-person class. I plan to improve my left handed layup, get back to kickboxing and learn more about foraging for edible plants among other fun activities.
  7. Figure out how you want to feel and focus on that every single day. I’ve shared Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map and Core Desired Feelings approach many times on this blog. I’m thrilled to try her day planner again this year. (It’s on sale with the code MANIFEST18.) Basically, I’ve used her graphic maker to remind myself on my computer, phone and in print format–exactly how I want to feel every day. I’ve done this for several years and I know that it works to support your goals rather than leading with your goals first. It’s remarkable to work toward something when you’re heart is actually in it.
  8. #BelikeMollyandPeter. Most of this advice applies whether you are single or in a couple.Yesterday I met Molly and Peter at church when I sat next to them in the front row. I noticed that at one point during the Gospel when we stand and look toward the center of the church, that they were nestling and embracing like they were on a movie date. I thought, wow, I hope I’m like that with my husband when I’ve been married that long. After the service, I commented on this to both of them. Here’s the lowdown on what I learned from this couple who is about to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary: They follow the 3 R’s which they learned long ago in a service.

RESPECT--no “yes, dears” because that’s not respectful. Fully see and hear the person. For all of us as individuals, I say that means the same for self-respect. Choose that inner self talk that is kind and respectful–not punishingly critical.

RELIGION–wait, don’t leave yet if you run at the thought of organized religion because it’s not just about that.  It’s about believing in someone or something greater than yourself.  For some of my friends, that quite simply connects to nature. When they hike or even stick their hands in some dirt to re-pot a plant, they calm all their cells down and realize they are simply part of a larger master plan. Pete talked about this as the glue.  My husband will prefer hiking the mountain over going to church any day–but we have the faith that we are being divinely led on a magical, mystical, kick-a** path if only we show up and do our part. That’s our glue even if  he is not sitting in the pew with me and my son. For more explorations and models of faith, check out my posts on Faith, Boredom and Desire or Wine, Women and Divine Noticing.

ROMANCE–wait if you are single because I was single until my mid-30s and I chose a romance with my single life–an INTENSE AND AMAZING FREEDOM to create spontaneous experiences on my own or with friends. That could be a wine and cheese gathering, a fantastic binge-watch in pjs or a biking adventure in the woods. And for those with a partner, I will tell you that I’m all up in this intention because it’s too easy to let life take over and forget, what Molly and Peter told me they did at the end of the day when they wouldn’t see each other – the ten-second kiss. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Mystery dates and mystery trips are also key. You can do that alone or with a best friend too!

I’ll admit that I squished extra points into #8, but I’m stopping at my lucky number because it’s auspicious and that’s plenty for a stellar year.

I hope these simple next steps help you to create the amazing year you want. If you want help crystallizing your vision and creating a plan to support it, I invite you to check out this page on my blog.

Choose to make magic every single day.

#cucalacas + love,



Free Book for You to Mystery Gift to Another!


Big love, people. BIG. GIANT. LOVE.

Here it is: I just came from my new church and I learned about the story of St. Nicholas. He was an expert at mystery gifts.

So here’s what I am doing: I am gifting my novel, The Amazing Adventures of Selma Calderón: A Globetrotting Magical Mystery of Courage, Food & Friendship to 8 people of your choosing. Free. I will send 7 within the U.S. and 1 internationally.

How does it work?

Send an email to with the name and address where you would like the book sent. Send it by Wednesday, December 6–St. Nick’s Day!

I will choose 7 of the emails at random for U.S. shipments and 1 from the group of international addresses, also at random.

I will notify you if your recipient is selected.  I will sign and dedicate each book and mail it.

Here’s the clincher: Let’s keep this a mystery and not tell the recipient that it was you!

I’m so excited about this that I’m bursting with joy!

I have more fun things I’ve created over recent weeks below. Read on if you want some more love.


  1. Readying Your Heart for Whatever Comes Your Way
    Early this morning, I was thinking about how my church will be going through a seismic retrofitting around Easter time. That means that the building will be  strengthened to be earthquake-ready.  For some time I’ve been thinking about how this is a metaphor for our hearts. Listen in here for 11:44:44 minutes and seconds on the topic. Also, some folks have asked me to start a podcast. I’m not there yet, but if you’d like some additional encouragement to keep going, I made a ten-minute Bright Light broadcast here.
  2. Mystic Athlete TV is here! I’m on a big transformative journey of heart, body, soul and mind. You can track my progress via 1 minute daily videos (and get inspired!) on YouTube by subscribing here and you can also join me on Instagram @beamysticathleteTV.
  3. Design a Life & Live It. I’m helping people transform their lives through strategic business planning combined with my own personal magic. In two 90-minute sessions we crystallize your vision and set up concrete incremental steps to design the life you want and live it. You can read more about it on my Work With Me page. This is a great gift to yourself or someone else for the holidays. I am also offering sessions to groups of friends of 4 or less who would like to create plans and support each other throughout the year.  My client roster is full for the rest of 2017 (and I’m finishing the sequel to my novel), but if you want to save a spot or spots for 2018, let me know by sending an email to


When to stop?

I have been waiting to write this post until the perfect time. Now with a cinnamon roll in my belly and a cup of tea by my side, I want to share what’s been brewing in my heart for a couple of months now.  It’s about when to stop, and includes a few ideas on how to stop.

IMG_8208I took this photo expressly for you as I had to stop at this one lane bridge. I’ve been across it exactly eight times as I traveled back and forth to a class called: Enchantivism: Changing the World with Story, Myth and Inspiration at Pacifica Graduate Institute. The class was taught by Dr. Craig Chalquist. (Check out his site for lots of free resources on an alternative to in-your-face activism to help heal the world.)

The bridge above is meant for two-way traffic but only has room for one car going one direction at a time. It’s located on a dark and curvy road in the mountains. Each time I stopped at the line, I peered over the dashboard to see if there were headlights on the other side of the bridge. I had a car waiting on the other side only once. I let the car cross over the bridge before me, then I took my turn.

It got my thinking about how in life, I wish there were stop signs more often. As a hypervigilant overfunctioning planner geek, I also wish that I could see what was mapped out far in advance. But this isn’t always the case. That’s why, a few years ago, I created this Made of Stars Meditation to Trust in the Divine Plan.

The bridge experience also felt like a reminder of how far I’ve come in breaking ancestral patterns. Say what? Basically, there are habits that we all learn from our families, living and deceased, which can help or hinder us.

Can you think of anything you learned from your immediate or extended family? Any habits? Here are a couple of ideas:

Fear name it – the dark, spiders, driving on highways, heights – some of these fears may be uniquely yours, but some may be learned. Pause and think about it. When did you first decide to be afraid of that?

Mistrust of...a certain race, ethnicity, political party – some of these experiences are founded on interactions with others and/or oppression by others. These experiences are real and painful. Did you know about Daryl Davis? He’s the subject of the documentary Accidental Courtesy. I learned about him in class. He’s a keyboardist who has played with Chuck Berry and Little Richard. After a gig in an all-white venue, an audience member approached Davis to compliment him on his set. As they struck up a conversation, Davis learned that the individual was a card-carrying member of the KKK who eventually gave up his membership and turned over his ceremonial robes to Davis. Davis now has a garage full of ceremonial robes from a number of individuals who renounced their membership in an effort to unlearn the prejudice passed down from generation to generation.

Even while watching the promotional video for the film, I felt fear run through my body when I saw KKK members and their actions. I’m not suggesting that you go out and befriend Klan members. Racism is real, scary and dangerous. And there are many great and resourceful organizations who are breaking down those barriers.

But what can we do to find common ground with people we encounter who may not share similar world views?

The U.S. is more divided now than ever before. I live in a small town and find myself crossing paths with people who voted differently in the presidential election, for starters. According to Brené Brown’s most recent research in her new book, Braving The Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging, more of us are living in communities with like-minded people. This is a problem. We are no longer asked to find common ground with our neighbors because often, we hold all of the same views.

Do you feel like you belong? Do you feel lonely sometimes? This quote by Dr. Maya Angelou frustrated Brown for years. It was a key piece in unraveling the quest for belonging and the key to standing alone.

You are only free when you realize you belong no place–you belong every place–no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great.

One central idea is to belong to yourself. And also also how can we find ways to create real connections with others?

Here are four of the specific research-based steps recommended by Brown:

People are hard to hate close up. Move In.

Speak truth to bull****. Be civil.

Hold hands. With Strangers.

Strong back. Soft front. Wild heart.

You can dig deeper on this by reading her book (it’s only 161 pages) or you can watch this great interview with Lewis Howes.

But let’s get back to what happens when we stop and pause. Let’s think about how to break the patterns that no longer serve us. Here’s what I’ve been doing more of in the last few months:

  1. Observe the story like a movie: I have spent years getting triggered by conversations with someone in my life. Just this week, I saw it about to happen and I was able to watch the story unravel and pause my normal (inside my head reaction, “here we go again”) and instead, just say, “Okay, this is what we’re doing. And I don’t have to let it hurt me.” This keeps me from labeling him a narcissist and lets the moment simply pass. It’s that labeling which adds to the act of dehumanizing. I dipped into compassion and noticed that just listening to him was my act of service. (I still maintain boundaries in the relationship and don’t seek him out if I want to be seen and heard.) As a result, I left the conversation lighter.
  2. Plug in and recharge: I’ve tapped into Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map approach to creating Core Desired Feelings year after year. She has a cool graphic maker here. Core Desired Feelings are simply feelings you choose to dictate how you want to feel every day. One of mine is “Earth-Connected.” When I go outside and connect with nature, even for a few minutes in my backyard standing still or tending my small container garden, I am recharged. The other thing I do is plug in my sound-activated dance light every morning before turning on my computer. Then I play music and dance if I feel like it. Other times I choose quiet yoga or pull a few cards.
  3. The Outbreath: I’m a member of Lindsay Pera’s Mystic’s Society and one simple concept I’ve learned from her is the “outbreath.” In between work tasks, running errands, phone calls or any activity, I often pause and simply breathe with a focus on the exhale to signal my body, heart and mind that I’m transitioning to a new activity. This has helped me a lot with adrenal stress and also emotional eating because I’m more conscious of whether I’m actually hungry or procrastinating from the next task by foraging in the fridge or pantry.
  4. In the dark questions: If you’ve read my blog for some time, you know that I often suggest meditation and prayer as a key to designing your life. Well, we know that sitting still is not always easy. I’ve started a new practice of waking up and in my dark bedroom, and simply asking, “What do you want me to know today?” You can ask that question of your ancestors, whichever God you worship or of your own inner guru, as my yoga teacher and friend, Carrie Hensley, always says. Sometimes I just hear one word like, “shine” or “be free” or “trust.” Though this process may feel uncomfortable when you read about it, just try it when you’re half asleep and see what words come to mind. Then when I lift myself up out of bed and my feet touch the floor, I simply say, “Thank you.”  I offer gratitude for being above dirt another day.

An additional frame of reference you may want to consider comes from Brown’s previous book Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead. Her acronym for BRAVING has been a source of helping me craft the best boundaries to suit how I design and live my life.

B – Boundaries
R – Reliability
A – Accountability
V – Vault (keeping confidences and not speaking out of turn*)
I – Integrity
N – Non-judgement (ask for what you need and accept what others need without judging them)
G – Generosity (not jumping to negative assumptions about the intention of others)

*A nuance of the Vault which you’ll hear about in the interview with Lewis Howes is that keeping confidences also includes not telling other people’s stories. She doesn’t just mean gossip here, it also means avoiding telling other people’s business even if you have the mask of caring while sharing. Brown refers to that as using other people’s stories as currency.


Finally, I’ve had tons of fun with the stars lately. I love the app called Skyview. It allows me to look at the stars and identify the constellations. Last night, I took a walk alone under the moonlight (to connect with nature) and it was breathtaking. I came across the constellation, Andromeda and after taking the course I referenced above, I had to research her story. Often when we come across myths, they either resonate right away or they may be a bit irritating. When I first started to read her story here, I rolled my eyes. I thought, “Come on, I don’t want another man slays the dragon and saves the princess story!” But then I paused and observed my own reaction and looked a little more deeply. Andromeda is chained to a rock to atone for her mother’s sin of thinking she was the most beautiful. And I thought about ancestral patterning.

I thought about what I’ve been taught to fear and what self-imposed limitations I’ve embraced through the influence of family, tribes of friends or colleagues and culture.

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Remember, there are signs everywhere, in story, myth and even as you drive down the road. Here’s a Golden Thread Meditation I made in a sacred grove of trees to tap into your own ancestors and to remember YOU ARE LOVED every single day.

I’ve realized I’m not chained to a rock by my past and I don’t need someone to slay a sea dragon for me. I’ve got my own sword, and it comes in the form of my bold beautiful heart.

Use yours.

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Here’s some additional beauty from the mountains of Pacifica Graduate Institute. Email me at if you’d like to work together to create your vision for the future and map out concrete steps to get there. I’m working with a handful of individuals before the end of the year. For more on how I came to offer this opportunity, check out this post.

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